My Daughter's Tears About Her Father

Teens are smart, and sometimes just way too smart for their own good. My daughter had a very rude awakening this afternoon. I got a call from her father, who doesn't have time to come and visit her even though he only lives 7 minutes away. He told me that he was moving in with the other woman that he's had all these years, and that he wouldn't be as close anymore. Although he will be farther away, it isn't that much too far. I told her about his moving and the tears came tumbling down. I felt so horrible for her because even if she doesn't get to see him much, she knew he was still fairly close by. She knew about the other woman but thought that her dad was all alone. He even told her that this past Christmas that he didn't get any presents and that he was totally alone.....but that was not the truth. He finally admitted to me today that he was moving in and that he had been spending alot of time there. I told him that I had told our daughter that he must have spent Christmas there with her because we noticed him not home for several days.... so now he knows that his daughter knows that he wasn't alone. Why did he tell her something to make her feel bad? Only God knows why. I honestly think that he was still thinking that I would return back to him but there was no way that I could. Talking to my daughter was something that I needed to do, not to tell her anything bad about him, but to re-asure her that her dad was okay and that he was going to be alright. I told her to be happy for him. And now, I think she is.

Learning How What We Do Always Affects The Future

I want my daughter to learn that whatever she does in this life will always come back to her. If she is diligent about getting good grades in school, she will learn so much and make it easier to get into the college that she wants. Everything in life takes work if it's anything worthwhile. She was taking a look at some other people in our lives that have already grown up and have had problems along the way. Getting a good job requires hard work and a good attitude in life. While we were talking about this, she managed to take her cell phone out and do some texting in between our conversation. I reminded her that she will soon be driving and that the use of a cell phone will not be used during that time. I can't tell you how many people I see driving while talking on the phone and the number of accidents this can cause. Whatever we do in this life, we must know that it can always come back at us one day, even if it's years later. My dearest daughter, please learn that you pay for your actions and right now is the time to make sure that what you do is something you can be proud of later in life.

Teens and Their Future

My daughter came home yesterday from school announcing that all they watched on tv during certain classes was about the innaugaration. This is indeed history in the making. Now a days, school seems to be more with it when it comes to the happenings of today.  Who would have thought even 30 years ago that Barrack Obama would even be president?  This is a very good indicator that dreams are coming true and that anyone can make their own dreams come true.  The semester started up again and she had some new classes.  All the classes that she wanted to head her way of becoming an equine vet some day.  Yes, even though they say that you can't get what you want, you really can, if you work hard enough at it to get it.  Keep Dreaming! because dreams really can come true

Christmas Was Great

My darling daughter, pretty much a growing teen, sometimes too big for her own britches really did have a great Christmas this year. She recieved many wonderful gifts. She also gave some gifts this year as well. She has become to learn that not everyone has money to buy gifts and essentially learning that Christmas is not about gifts, but family and friends, good food and family time. She learned first hand that some children wouldn't even have had gifts if it weren't for the good hearts that some people have for others. Every one that I know of this past Christmas spent less on gifts, and that is because our economy is not so good. Children need to learn that it's not about how many gifts we get, but what you have. Teaching a teen about real living and what life is all about, especially on Christmas is very important.