My Daughter's Graduation Suprize...Her Dad Showed Up To Her Graduation

Graduation came and went quickly. I was such a proud mother watching her darling daughter sit anxiously in the seating area, waiting for her name to be called to go up and get the handshake and diploma. It was held outside, so it was humid, hot and extremely packed to the max. I kept looking to see if my ex, her father, would show up to see our daughter walk across the stage....no sign of him. ..Then, all of a sudden, he showed up. He didn't come alone, but I was so happy that he decided to come and see her. He walked on the bleachers out in front and since I had told him where she'd be sitting, he stopped right in front of where she was.  She didn't see him at first, until she glanced up at where I was along with her other brothers and sisters and families and we all started to point him out to her. She saw him, and they waved at each other. I honestly wanted to cry, but didn't. I knew that would make her night by him showing up. He stayed only long enough to see her walk, come back to her seated isle, gave us a present that he brought for her, and left. Not long, but just long enough. I was very happy for my daughter, that her dad decided to show up.

My Daughter's Tears About Her Father

Teens are smart, and sometimes just way too smart for their own good. My daughter had a very rude awakening this afternoon. I got a call from her father, who doesn't have time to come and visit her even though he only lives 7 minutes away. He told me that he was moving in with the other woman that he's had all these years, and that he wouldn't be as close anymore. Although he will be farther away, it isn't that much too far. I told her about his moving and the tears came tumbling down. I felt so horrible for her because even if she doesn't get to see him much, she knew he was still fairly close by. She knew about the other woman but thought that her dad was all alone. He even told her that this past Christmas that he didn't get any presents and that he was totally alone.....but that was not the truth. He finally admitted to me today that he was moving in and that he had been spending alot of time there. I told him that I had told our daughter that he must have spent Christmas there with her because we noticed him not home for several days.... so now he knows that his daughter knows that he wasn't alone. Why did he tell her something to make her feel bad? Only God knows why. I honestly think that he was still thinking that I would return back to him but there was no way that I could. Talking to my daughter was something that I needed to do, not to tell her anything bad about him, but to re-asure her that her dad was okay and that he was going to be alright. I told her to be happy for him. And now, I think she is.

Tears of Joy

I really don't like repeating what I have said earlier about fathers and daughters and how important I think it is to have that time together, if that's possible. It has been several months now since my daughter has seen her father. He just doesn't bother to come over, or call. However, he will tell her on occasion that he will pick her up for sunday lunch and doesn't show up, nor does he call. My son, on the other hand, will cut yards with him on sundays and he did so this past sunday. He brought him back home and before our daughter had even the slightest chance to find out her dad was here, HE LEFT !!!! Oh, I was so upset that he did that. And then he called last night on our daughter's cell phone, but not to talk to her, but to my son. Oh, that hurt her feelings so bad and she told me about it on the way to the barn this morning. As much as I hate getting into things with this man, I decided to call him up and I found out that he was extremely close by, actually right there on our way to the barn. He was working and so we pulled off the main road so my daughter could see him. She saw her daddy, and my poor child had nothing but tears coming out of her. She cried and cried. She hugged him and they were facing to where his face was facing me. He had to calm her down from her crying and he was quite stunned at how much she had grown in just a few months. Our little girl is growing up into a beautiful young lady. He has promised to come get her on sunday. I told him that ANY DAY would be fine to get her, if even for a short while.. but, he doesn't have time. He likes to work and said he promised to get her on sunday. I pray that he does. As she got back into the car, we were on our way again, over to the stables. I was hurt by the fact that he doesn't take enough time to spend any time with her. As I left her there for her day of volunteering, I knew in my heart that I had done my best to try and make things right for her. I went to work, and before I came home, I called her to see how she was. She was so happy. I told her that I was concerned about how she was and she said she cried tears, but they were of joy. Now I truely know that by stopping to see him for her was the best thing. I now have peace that my daughter is feeling much better. What a relief.