During the teen years, and sometimes before, our children start asserting more of their independence. Sometimes they can go through it without too many problems, however, some go through it really hard. I have 5 children. They are all grown now except for my youngest one, who is now 14.
I can honestly say that none of them went through the teen years the same.
I have told my youngest daughter about making wise choices in her life. She asked me what that meant. I told her that as long as she chooses good friends to hang around with, follow the rules that I have set down for her and make decent grades in school that all of the "goodies" that she owns will remain hers. However, if a bad choice comes about, her electronics start getting taken away. Teens nowadays normally are pretty blessed with alot of those expensive, but fun electronics: Cell phones, computers, laptops, the internet, tv with remote, i-pods and so forth. She has been really good about following the rules. She really likes her electronics for sure !
Wednesday, January 23, 2008
Tuesday, January 22, 2008
Quinceanera Checklist
Here is my checklist for what we will be needing and things we need to address now that we have the dress and the reception hall:
1. cake
2. invitations
3. music/band/DJ
4. security for the reception
5. food to be served for the reception
6. pictures or video, most likely, both
7. decorations
8. plastic ware for the food and cake
9. drinks
Those are things that need to be addressed now that I have some all important decisions made. My daughter also has to get confirmations from her court of honor to see who we can depend on to dance with her.
1. cake
2. invitations
3. music/band/DJ
4. security for the reception
5. food to be served for the reception
6. pictures or video, most likely, both
7. decorations
8. plastic ware for the food and cake
9. drinks
Those are things that need to be addressed now that I have some all important decisions made. My daughter also has to get confirmations from her court of honor to see who we can depend on to dance with her.
Monday, January 21, 2008
Oh, Boys !!!
Even though my daughter doesn't have a special guy right now (thank goodness), she has had a small taste of having a special guy. She is going to stand up in her best friend's quinceanera next weekend. She was going to have that special guy stand in with her, and he even went to some practices with her, and then he decided that he was just way too busy, not only for the dance practice, but for my daughter. Good riddence I said. However, that left her without a dance partner so they found her someone. She doesn't know him but they are only going to dance together. This concludes my thoughts on my own daughter's quinceanera which will be coming up in August: No boyfriends. That's right. The girls in her dance party will have to dance with either a good friend, or someone that my daughter picks. As far as her escort goes, she also is going to be picking a good friend. I told her that it's better to pick someone she knows that she can rely on, instead of picking a so-called boyfriend who may back out at the last minute. I know that's going to make the planning go a little smoother now !
Sunday, January 20, 2008
Quinceanera Planning pt.2
After many phone calls, prices, and going to look at about 5 halls, we have settled upon the Knights of Columbus near our home, about 6 miles away.....not bad considering we found it to be really clean, large, plenty of kitchen space with no extra rental to use it like some of the other places and most of all, it's easy to find !!! Oh, and we got it for 8 hours at $ 400, plus a $100 clean up fee. Perfect !!
Next was the dress, and I called around to find something we could afford..especially hearing that most dresses were in the $ 450 and up range, we went a few places and she tried on alot so she could find which color looked best on her. She settled on a royal blue dress that has alot of beautiful pearls and stones on it. Just see how beautiful the dress is. We finally decided to put it on layaway since they offered a 6-month plan. Oh, the dress cost is $ 338. total...(ouch)
Next will come the different things that she is going to need and the padrinos(sponsors) to help get them. I will be making my list and posting it.
Tuesday, January 15, 2008
Monday, January 14, 2008
Quinceanera Planning
Today was another day of planning. I have begun the planning of my daughter's quinceanera. First of all, the date and place is the most important. I called around tons of locations, trying to find the date or somewhere's near to it that we could find. Here are a few of the places and prices I found today.
1. Our local park with a large building on it which holds plenty of people is booked up for a whole year, but it was close to the total of 725.00
2. The Chapperal was where my daughter wanted it to be, however, it has gone up to $800 for the rental with clean-up included, but I can only get it from 7 pm-midnight, with any decorating beforehand costing $100 hr.
3. Most other places were comparable in price, but I think that I have gotten the list down to a Knights of Columbus, or two different VFW's in the area.
Once we have secured our location, we will be looking for her dress. Geez, that's not gonna be easy, is it?
1. Our local park with a large building on it which holds plenty of people is booked up for a whole year, but it was close to the total of 725.00
2. The Chapperal was where my daughter wanted it to be, however, it has gone up to $800 for the rental with clean-up included, but I can only get it from 7 pm-midnight, with any decorating beforehand costing $100 hr.
3. Most other places were comparable in price, but I think that I have gotten the list down to a Knights of Columbus, or two different VFW's in the area.
Once we have secured our location, we will be looking for her dress. Geez, that's not gonna be easy, is it?
Tuesday, January 8, 2008
Saturday, January 5, 2008
A Hard Lesson About Boys
Boys will come and go. Some boys can really break your heart. There may be alot of "caring" or "really nice" boys out there for you to date, my darling daughter, but you need to learn something about them before deciding if they are worthy of a date. Perhaps it's not a date we are talking about, but having them for more than just a friend.
1. First of all, besides a cute face, they need to have some sort of a brain inside that head. They need to be somewhat interested in school if they are going to be smart enough to go on to college or trade school some day.
2. Boys need to have some manners about them, as you certainly don't want to have to deal with one who burps and farts out loud and embarrass you in public.
3. You need to know something about his likes and dislikes to see if you have something in common.
4. Learn about his background. Not a background check or anything like that, but you need to know if he smokes or drinks or has anything bad that he does because you certainly don't want to have a boy who does something you are against.
5. Has he had alot of girlfriends? Does he skip and hop from one to another? This might not be a good sign if he does.
6. Respectful, and not that this is last or least, but actually one of the most important things. He needs to have respect for your feelings and not be someone who wants to push you into doing anything you shouldn't be doing.
7. Go with your gut instinct about what's right or wrong. Don't ever compromise your values.
1. First of all, besides a cute face, they need to have some sort of a brain inside that head. They need to be somewhat interested in school if they are going to be smart enough to go on to college or trade school some day.
2. Boys need to have some manners about them, as you certainly don't want to have to deal with one who burps and farts out loud and embarrass you in public.
3. You need to know something about his likes and dislikes to see if you have something in common.
4. Learn about his background. Not a background check or anything like that, but you need to know if he smokes or drinks or has anything bad that he does because you certainly don't want to have a boy who does something you are against.
5. Has he had alot of girlfriends? Does he skip and hop from one to another? This might not be a good sign if he does.
6. Respectful, and not that this is last or least, but actually one of the most important things. He needs to have respect for your feelings and not be someone who wants to push you into doing anything you shouldn't be doing.
7. Go with your gut instinct about what's right or wrong. Don't ever compromise your values.
Wednesday, January 2, 2008
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